3/19/2011

When There isn't Enough Room for You

This is one of the worst feelings. Your friends are all headed off to that fast food joint down the street. You start to collect your things, getting ready to go with them. "Umm...there's not enough seats in the car, sorry!" You pretend you don't care, "Oh, ya, no, that's fine, I've got a lot of stuff to do anyways, don't even worry about it." Your little heart sinks as you sit back down, face red, near tears (maybe). Not everyone can be like Rebecca Black, with so many options: Back seat? Front seat? How about NO seat. And this situation isn't only awkward for you, it is most likely awkward for the folks that just had to shut you down like that. If they're good friends, maybe one will offer to stay behind with you, or they'll ask you if they can bring you anything back. If they aren't decent enough to do one of those things, I think it's time for some new friends.

This scenario can also occur when you go to the cafeteria, lunch area, or whatever and go to sit down. You notice that there are no available seats. This results in awkwardness. Perhaps no one notices you, perhaps no one invites you to pull up a seat. Here are your options:
a) Quietly slink away: Hopefully there's an available bathroom stall for you to eat your lunch in, Mean Girls style.  
b) Pull up a chair to the table and have a seat. This usually requires multiple steps:
   1) Walk over to another table, ask the people sitting there if you can snag the extra seat by them. Additional awkwardness is added if they say no...
   2) Drag the chair over to your table, and have everyone awkwardly shift over to make room for you.
   3) Sit down, everyone will probably be uncomfortably squished, sitting shoulder to shoulder.

It should be noted that the most awkward possible outcome, is that you end up sitting not at the table, but in a chair behind someone at the table. You are not really in the group, but literally on the outside edge. It is difficult for you to join the conversation from this position, so you will most likely just be sitting awkwardly, feeling like a zero.
Don't be discouraged, next time you'll just have to get to the cafeteria sooner. It's not that your peers don't want you to sit with them (necessarily). There just isn't enough room. So God forbid, if you're ever in this situation, feeling alone, just remember this post my friend. It happens to the best of us.

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